Had Plans to Hang Out With Her but Haven't Heard Back
You Don't Have to Text Each Other All Day
Or even every day
Part of being in a healthy relationship is having your own full, fabulous life.
If you have your own interests, hobbies and friends you should be too busy to be texting someone all day or waiting around to hear from them.
Do you want to be with someone who has nothing better to do than text you all day? I hope not.
If you start getting anxious if a few hours go by and you haven't heard from them, or even worse, if it's only been an hour, you need to revaluate your life.
You're either incredibly insecure with little to no self-esteem, desperately clinging to outside validation from your partner (or anyone else) that you're still a good, lovable, worthy person, or you don't trust your partner.
If you don't trust your partner, stop dating them.
Did they do something to deserve this mistrust or are you insecure and paranoid? No one should have to report their whereabouts except an underage child to their parent.
If you texted a question about plans and they haven't responded… maybe they're busy. In the middle of something, on a call, working, showering, left their phone in the car or another room. If you really need an answer… call them. These handheld computers ARE phones. Email them, call them on another line.
"I know they're not doing any of those things! Their phone isn't really dead, they didn't 'not hear it', they're ignoring me!" Then stop dating them. Or, really, get a hobby. Pay more attention to how they treat you in real life.
Are they on social media and not texting you back? First of all, stop stalking them online. Second, maybe they're taking care of mindless stuff before they focus on a conversation with you.
That's exactly what I was doing instead of texting my boyfriend back, and when he asked me why I was doing things on social media instead of texting him back I explained it to him. Creating event invites for my comedy shows and cross promoting them on pages and in groups on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, it's simple, easy business I can get done and out of the way so I can then give him my focused attention.
If all you texted was, "How's your morning?" or "Did you eat lunch?" and you haven't heard back… are you their mom? Stop checking up on them. You know what's not sexy? Acting like someone's mom.
Also, don't take it personally when they don't get back to you right away. Yes, it can be thoughtful to ask someone how their day is going, but it's not a crucial text requiring a response. Chill out and go back to living your fabulous life.
Stop trying to have meaningful conversations via text. I know people are scared of phones but you shouldn't be afraid of talking to your significant other or someone you're dating. Call and talk, or wait until you see each other in person.
Tone gets lost in the written word, lines get crossed and misunderstandings can occur. It's one thing to send cute shit to each other, but save real, and serious, conversations for phone calls or in person meetings.
If you're just texting, "Hey" and are pissed you don't get an immediate response you really need to look at why you need that so bad. They're not being rude, you're being needy, clingy and desperate. Why are you putting your worth in someone else's hands? You're telling them, "My self-wroth depends on your interaction with me!"
You shouldn't be making yourself sick with anxiety because you haven't gotten a text. You should be too busy to notice.
These are tools for communication. Don't let them own you. They serve YOU.
Love yourself more.
I love hearing from my boyfriend during the day. We text each other cute, funny, sweet, random things. If I don't text him back right away it's because I'm in the middle of something. If he doesn't text me back, it's because he's working, running, writing… living his life. I don't start questioning his love for me if I haven't heard from him.
Use texting as a tool not a measurement of your partners love, devotion or interest. How you treat each other in person, your friendship, love, and emotional and intellectual connection, are your barometers for a healthy relationship, not the frequency or speediness of texts.
Had Plans to Hang Out With Her but Haven't Heard Back
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